Attachment

Attachment patterns are often established before our working memory, giving an illusion that these patterns within relationships are cemented or that our attachment wounds will never be healed. The good news is that transformation is possible. Within the secure attachment of the therapeutic relationship, we will explore attachment with curiosity and an understanding of how our nervous systems use attachment for survival, and explore new ways of fostering healthy, life-giving relationships.

Attachment is the home base from which we relate to ourselves, others, and the world. I specialize in helping my client understand their attachment style as a way to process the relational or self-esteem issues they may be struggling with. I have found that understanding attachment can have a profound impact on how my client are able to navigate their life in new ways that feel more authentic and connected.

Attachment is a foundational piece of my work as a therapist. I believe deeply that each of us carries the stories of our family and its history within us. Not only that, but you carry the stories they gave to you *about* you. Most of those stories are false. In our work together, we'll dig out the stories that no longer serve you, and create space for new stories to take root. My hope is that our work will help you reclaim your connection to your body, inner wisdom, and authentic truth.

Attachment wounds lead to feelings of abandonment or rejection. We all deserve to feel like we belong. I am trained in attachment theory, or Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) which is clinically proven as the most effective treatment for couples. I have been an EFT client, and I know how hard yet rewarding this work can be. I love integrating art, mindfulness, or body work with EFT because my clients learn new and deeper ways to feel their emotions and connect with themselves and others.

Through my work and training as a couples therapist I have come to understand that we are social creatures and we need to feel safe. The way we were nurtured as children impact the way we form attachments now and they affect every aspect of our identity especially our relationships with others. One of the main approaches I use comes from an attachment lens. As a couples counselor I work with couples to strengthen their connection with their partner to heal attachment wounds.

Some people say that unresolved attachment issues are at the root of most of our relational issues - and I would have to agree. Underneath fights with your partner is a desire to feel safe and secure in your relationship. Fights happen because we don't feel safe and connected. I use proven interventions based on the science of attachment theory to help clients identify and express their important feelings and needs, leading to less conflict and greater connection with others.

You want connection, and yet it's terrifying. Humans are wired for relationships. Our caregivers, friends, families, and partners are essential to our well-being and yet can be very challenging when those relationships also involve pain or abuse. My training is rooted in attachment theory and the ways in which a trusted therapeutic relationship can build towards secure, nourishing, and joyful relationships.

A large part of the work that I have done in infant mental health is working on building attachment and increasing security in relationships. Attachment is important in every relationship, and I know how to help create and maintain secure attachments even if you have a pattern of insecure attachment in your life.

Do you push people away when you get too close? Or are you the kind of person that needs constant contact to know your relationship is okay? Lets talk about your attachment and find ways to make your relationships more meaningful.

I work with individuals in therapy to identify the problematic thoughts, behaviors, and patterns that stem from our oldest and deepest attachment wounds. I help my individual clients develop self-compassion, self-acceptance, and self-worth by deconstructing and rebuilding their sense of self. I specialize in trauma informed approaches to working with anxiety and depression in the LGBTQ+ community and have extensive experience working with the effects of religious trauma and discrimination.

I have studied and utilized attachment based theory in my practice. Since the foundation of our core is rooted in childhood, returning to a new understanding during this time period can help us confront the attachment issues we experience in adulthood. Attachment theory can help us understand ourselves in a deeper way. Many of us have grown up in a dysfunctional family unit and may not be aware of how the significance of these experiences impact our emotional health and well-being.

I seek to provide a secure attachment with my clients. Many of you have attachment wounds from childhood. I will have an attuned presence, and help you connect to your emotional parts, among using other supportive interventions.

Attachment injuries refer to emotional wounds that occur within close relationships when one's need for security, understanding, and responsiveness is significantly neglected or betrayed. Rooted in attachment theory, which emphasizes the importance of secure bonds between individuals—most notably between parents and children—these injuries can have profound effects that extend into adulthood, particularly for the adult children of immature parents.

Attachment develops when we are born with any caregiver who provides regular physical and emotional care. Any problems between the child and the caregiver can result in attachment disorder, which may result in adulthood having difficulty forming and maintaining friendships and romantic partnerships. Understanding the history of the client's attachment is a critical step that will eventually allow the client to experience different types of attachments.

Attachment to me is the ways in which we show up in our relationship with ourself and others. The way in which we show up in our relationships can tell us a lot about our attachment system. Do you find yourself avoiding conflict or affection? Do you find yourself feeling anxious and dependent on someone else to feel validated? Or is it a combination of both. Together, we can explore the messages you received throughout your life to better understand your attachment style.

I specialize in working with clients who frequently express apprehensions related to rejection and abandonment. My approach involves delving into their early life experiences, particularly their interactions within the parent-child dynamic, as well as their past romantic relationships. By exploring and understanding these foundational aspects, I illuminate how they shape and influence the clients' current patterns and dynamics of relationships.